Perfection? Take a hard look..!

"People throw away what they could have by insisting on perfection which they cannot have and looking for it where they will never find it..." Edith Schaeffer

I have walked this earth for many many years. In my travels, I have had the opportunity to listen or maybe just steal a moment in the presence of what one may call pure truth of the hearts desire, or at least something thought to be so. One might argue that its mostly rumblings caused by distress from situations pertaining to matters of the heart, or perhaps just curiosity of what it might be like...

                                             "Perfection or is it Perfection"

Time and time again, there have been whispers heard on corners, debates amongst fellows, and arguments in cliques and amongst divas that have consumed tens of man hours about the "perfect guy" or "the perfect girl". Well as a guy, I can tell you,..No scratch that, I can assure you that the arguments amongst "guys" detailing the perfect girl are very easily resolved, mostly due to the lack of creativity and the inability to cogitate more than what is in sight thereby restricting the complexity of the issue of perfect to what we may not need to consider circumstantial but rather direct evidence that not only speaks for itself, but is a agreeable by every creature with a pair.... Its all hardly worth talking about.

                                                "Reality vs Fantasy"


The female mind is however one of many wonders.... Girls tend to explore more than what the eye can see, in fact most of their considerations are borderline fantasy, with an ounce of reality barely keeping a foot of their descriptions of "perfect" on the ground.  Now that is something that would interest a lot of guys with the right stomach. One thing that has puzzled me however is failure to differentiate fantasy from reality. Many times when we go on and on about the "perfect" someone. I'd assume that would be someone that is above what is considered to be average but realizable which might also contradict the used word "perfect".
Fantasy vs reality then brings about lots of confusion in setting of standards to which one must adhere...Personally, I try not to take to societies methods of categorizing people by physique, beauty, bloodline, wealth or whatever ridiculous criterion.  


                                    "To Settle or Not to Settle? that is the question"


I know this IT guy turned artist/musician and recently specialist on counterfeit detection that has his stomach turn at the sound of the phrase " I won't settle for less...!" It is so funny how there is no measurement for how much one will settle for. If a question was posed, "Martha, whats the least you'd settle for?" What is she to answer. Is the measure of "settling"? A scale of 1-10, or maybe A-Z, or perhaps Alpha to Zeta? And yet the phrase "I won't settle for less...!" is one that is used so often used. Less than what exactly...? One persons less is another persons more...


Do we always know exactly what it is we are asking for when we do so? I'm not so sure anymore. A 17th Century English Physicist coined a bunch of laws that formed the basis of classical mechanics. His name, Sir Isaac Newton. His third law, "The mutual forces of action and reaction between two bodies are equal, opposite and collinear", or to simply state it, "for every action there is a reaction." This is a law that extends out to physics and into our daily lives. All decisions we make have consequences. Some of the things I've heard people say....


                                   I wan't a rich man that can take care of me.


Save for people dealing in narcotics, cleverly planned and executed heists, extortionists and the like, wealth is something that is takes years of hard work and extensive man hours to accumulate. And when society deems a person wealthy, he or she has to work even harder to keep that wealth. 
There is a very high probability that a very wealthy man works very hard for extensive time periods. If a man has to spend 13 hours a day at the office, and then travel for work 2 out of 4 weeks in a month, when is he to spend time with his girlfriend, or wife? The question is, do you want a man with a lot of money to take care of you or just a man with a lot of money....? Do you even want the man? Taking care goes beyond whats in the bank.

I want a man who knows me, understands what I am feeling, likes the same movies and books as I do..

Its probably a question of orientation. What you want is not a man, but a woman or probably another you... or if you do find a guy like that, he's probably not into women. If you are looking for a BFF, then yes, look no further. I doubt there is a man who knows what his woman is really feeling. Saying he does doesn't make it so, coz no one can feel for you. Only you can feel what you are feeling. If at the end of a long day and man is expected to stay in with his girlfriend, paint their toe nails and talk about bedazzled handbags and cute little pink drinks, then I doubt the void of a man in the relationship is filled. Men were created to be different. I know this is not 12th Century Rome, where men acted like animals, living each day on their primal instincts but I do think men of this century deserve to maintain some of what makes them men. Yes, they should pay attention to their women and treat them with the utmost love love and respect that is deserved. So is it a strong man, able to keep you busy trying to figure him out, what he's all about, or a man who is transparent and is a version of you?


                                           I need bad boy that will be faithful to me.


The description says it all. A bad boy. Swagger so good it will make you retire...! One thats wants to make you his number 1, the one that said he'd leave his wife for you or whatever other colloquialism that best fits. A bad boy is probably exciting, probably filled with lots of mystery and whatever is most attractive to women. But there is chance that he will not be with more than one woman at any moment in time. He'll probably lie, steal and cheat. But hey, as long as he's a bad boy...


         "The artist who aims at perfection in everything, archives it in nothing" Eugene Delacroix


If you ask me there is no such thing as a "perfect somebody", and yes we do settle all the time, whether for less or not is thought we do not indulge in. The wait for that "perfect somebody" blinds so many, at times they lose out on the not so perfect but really good people that are right in front of them. 


Just A few random thoughts, 


Signing off,
Yours Truly.




P.S.please ignore any typo's and grammatical errors, i really need to get to bed now plus with English as your 8th, wait..9th language, you'd be lucky you can write at all...lol


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