The language of love..

I once heard someone say Love is the force that transforms and Improves the soul of the world. Yeah, he was 6"3, 215 pounds pro rugby player. I then asked him if the sunset made him cry. I think love is that that makes you kind of boring to those that are not in love. I might have read that somewhere coz I don't think I'm that creative. Wat can I say? I don't know much about love. What i do know is this, letting go of something that you felt you owed part of your existence, something that made you feel so good about yourself and probably for the first time made you want to give rather than take, when that feeling it ripped from your gut leaving a splodge of blood that that even Dexter, the blood guy can't figure out, you're probably gonna wonder "why?" coz that there is pain. At least so I've heard. They say you can tell how much a relationship meant to you by how much pain you go through when it reached its unfortunate demise. I guess when one weighs the pros and cons, its worth a try. 


"Love is much like a wild rose, beautiful and calm, but willing to draw blood in its defense." Mark Overby


But I have in mind a different kind of love. A love not based on poetry and song, nor joy and pain. A love that is not documented, one that I'm not sure I should call love...  and if I use the word love one more time in this sentence, I'll probably shoot myself. Oh what the hell,..
A friend of mine once told me about a language that has for so long been used by man to express his emotions and no, I'm not talking about sex, hey wait,...why aren't I talking about sex...lol. No, a language that is based on character and to the best of our knowledge gender. We called it "The Love language". And then we killed a goat.


Jared, is on a date with this girl Carole. He thought it would be fun to hang out outdoors so he takes her to the carnival. They are having lots of fun, the balloon dart game, the black hole bean toss, the baseball strike zone, he notices that she's elated and can't help be let out a smile every time she looks at him.  Jared is really psyched, he begins to feel like he's doing something right.
 As they walk off  the base, he places his hand on her lower back. They walk to a hot-dog stand to grab a bite. After paying for a few, they a sit at a table. Carole then unscrews the top of a bottle of water, sets the hot-dogs on plate and places it in front of Jared. She looks into his eyes and smiles. Jared responds by brushing her cheek with his fingers.  He is really into her, so they talk and he pays her compliments all night. She is ecstatic. 


Charles Darwin postulated a theory of evolution which I can relate to this behavior.  Males and females have evolved in such a way that they complement each other in almost about anything. What a man has to offer, a woman usually needs and the reverse is true.


Males are more physical in their expressions often using their hands, touching or caressing their companions. Its been noted to range from the gruesome grabbing in the most repugnant ways to the most "tender and loving" way, the right way. Expression by hand. As nature has it, females respond positively to that touch provided that it is "from the right person". 
Males are also more expressive verbally. It is not certain if their verbal expressions are  truth or just a means to an end, but what we do know is that they have evolved to be good at it. Females are very receptive to touch and are verbal niceties. It is the love language they like to listen to. 


Females are more intelligent creatures using their brains to express themselves in the simplest of ways and yet with the utmost  efficiency, a simple glance, a smile, a gesture, making males go insane as they try to figure out what it all means. Men respond to mind games, something that they are probably not so good at, but they opt for it anyways.

This has gone on for millions of years and will probably go on for a few million more, at least until we get to that point in time where we are all wearing a grey jump suits, and growing babies out of test tubes and petri-dishes at home coz human contact is abominable and year, human interaction is by mathematical equations. 
I believe our DNA is imprinted with an anomaly that causes us to behave the way we do, so I ask...


Love language, is it a myth? 




Signing off,
yours truly...






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